On Mastering Communication, take Some EQ classes Too

Mary taking a shot outside during a break period at the Tech Women Africa Summit 2018

Deep in thoughts, I needed to make a $57 payment I did not have. Everything I had done so far professionally for the past few months was riding on being able to make that payment.

About 10 minutes ago, it was coffee break. While we bit on the snacks offered, I got talking with a lady standing next to me, she loved my work and wanted to test our web application. She got redirected to namecheap.com (which is my hosting company). I refreshed the page to be sure.

Oh my, I knew something was wrong. She said it must be an hosting issue, and I should go check asap, I knew it was not.

No boasting required, but @Namecheap has never failed me. I excused myself. I am a big fan, still till today!

Earlier in the day, I had spent hours talking to a client about not receiving her mails. We went back and forth sending each other mails until I asked her to let me look into the issue later in the day.

It came to me, I was due on that $57 hosting renewal payment I did not have at that moment ๐Ÿ˜ญ

Thinking about this, you can imagine how I felt when a friend who had seen my tweets and pictures about the ongoing #TechWomenAfrica 2018 Summit send me a message about my dress. I know her to not like how nonchalant I treat my wardrobe and fill it with Tees and Jeans.

Friend:ย Mary this your dress…I don’t even know what to say.

Me: Please leave me alone o. It’s the last thing I am concerned with right now! Am I wearing rag?

Friend: Why, I have left you.

Me: Thank you.

Let me just say one thing. This particular friend absolutely meant no harm. She is in the fashion business, and likes it when a lady dresses to fit the occasion. But I think most times, how we approach a conversation (personal or professional) should be one to be wary of, we all can benefit from taking an Emotional Intelligence Class sometimes.

I have my eye on this one by Gemma Leigh Roberts: https://www.linkedin.com/learning/developing-your-emotional-intelligence/the-role-of-emotions-and-eq. Know any other #EQ classes taught by awesome people, do recommend in the comments.

I bet we are all guilty at one point or the other of talking before thinking, knowing we are is the beginning to mastering the art of communication. That is not to say, blurting out your thoughts as is, is a crime.

In my place, they say; Eyin ni oro, meaning words are like eggs, once it drops on the floor, its broken and cannot be put back in! You may want to think about that sometimes!

I mean I could also have responded with just a question asking what was wrong with it eh. She also could have pointed that out in a better way in her earlier remark too!

Sooooo, I bet you want to see beautiful me in my fine dress ๐Ÿค”

Here you go๐Ÿ‘‡๐Ÿฝ Enjoy and be sure to drop a comment.


  1. Wonderful dress and you look great, Mary! ๐Ÿ™‚ You look terrific in yellow which is a most happy, sunny color. Good for you! Glad to see you’re doing well.

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    1. Thank you Paul. Yellow is going to be my new Fav colour. You are always super kind. How’s it going over there in the land of the brave ๐Ÿ™‚ I hope all is well with you and yours.

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      1. We’re doing okay. Totally sheltering in, well, except to walk Cody, our black lab. Other than that, it’s not good over here in the ol’ U.S. of A. We used to be the land of the brave, now some are saying, with good reason, we’re the partisan land of the cowardly. It seems Trump is doing all he can to turn America into an autocracy. He still declares himself the victor of the election, and a number of U.S. Senators are backing him, refusing to acknowledge Joe Biden’s clear and strong victory. It’s scary. Trump is trying to set up new military leadership, obviously as a possible ploy for a violent take over which, if he has the military, he could do. It’s that crazy. People are scared. Me, I sit at home and write and read books!

        I sure hope things are going better for you! Take care dear friend.

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